A Moral-Philosophical Criticism to Leonor Dy-Liacco's 'Ideal Friend' Literary Piece
THE IDEAL FRIEND
Man is a social animal. As with the cliché “no man is an island,” a man can't live alone. Men of similar dispositions are naturally attracted to each other. In course of time, intimacy grows between them, this is called friendship. Leonor Dy-Liacco's “The Ideal Friend” details the characteristics of a person who is for keeps.
The poem opens with the gratefulness of the persona to his/her dear friend since the line “You made me the ideal friend/ whose helpfulness will know no end. He/she stretches his/her admiration for the friendship and trust given to him/her so as the poem continues the persona promised to be the friend that he/she is known to be. It is good to feel for someone that someone thinks of a person dearly as a worthy individual to be called as a friend. With that, a friend tries everything just not to break that trust given by someone.
To be a true friend, one need to be there not only in times of celebration or happy occasions but as well in times of hardships and struggles as symbolized by the phrases “all the world against” and “hearts with hate.” The persona promised this by saying “still would I try to remain true/ I deem a friend to you.” In friendships, it is during troubled times that you can really see your worth to other person, these are the moments wherein can assess if a person is a true friend or not. In this, the persona sees to it that he/she is a friend for all times, a shoulder to lean and cry on, a great comforter.
Aside from sticking to your friend in times of misery, it is still a good deed to aid your friend when he/she is needy. If there are financial difficulties and his/her means of making the ends meet does not suffice, a friend is someone to turn to. This is promised by the persona as in the lines “still I will strive to fulfill your need.” To lessen somehow the burden of that friend, the persona exclaims that he/she is willingly ready to lend a hand, one of the greatest support system one can have.
To measure friendship is whether to see if someone sticks with you when the whole world turns against you, judges you, as if they know you inside out. A true friend stays by his/her friend's side especially where there seem to be no one to hold on to. The word “fame” as used in the poem serves as the persona's friend's reputation which is “renounce” from him/her. Though the other person apparently loose his/her face, the persona never sees to it that it is a hindrance for their friendship for the line says “... I think that naught with me.” The persona also added that a million yet fake praises is nothing compared with a single but genuine love from a friend that he/she is willing to give as strengthened in the lines “... all the joys that this world can give/ ... no one but my friend receive.”
To trust a person has never been an easy task since it'll require lots of challenges and pass several tests yet the persona guarantees his/her friend to never doubt his/her promises of genuine friendship as symbolized by the term “distraught” for he/she wishes nothing but “hopes with fraught”. All the possible things such as “love, peace, and heath” and “fame and fortune” are all well-wishes of the persona to his/her friend. A true friend sees to it that you get all the best things in life and prays for you to gain all of it. Indeed, an ideal friend.
According to Eleanor Roosevelt “many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart,” in a friendship only those who remained with you sees you true value. Only these people can leave marks in your heart since they have lived with you in all your best and worst stories.